I had the most amazing evening last week. It was my Power of Moms monthly Learning Circle meeting. My friend formed this group over a year ago and the other ladies in the group live clear across town. We always have great meetings, but I came away from this particular meeting so uplifted and inspired. We had such a wonderful time together as women and mothers, and enjoyed an amazing spirit of learning. I admire each of these women, they are amazing mothers.
We usually discuss articles from the Power of Moms website, but this evening we discussed an article that Julie Beck, the Relief Society General President, gave last year at BYU Women's Conference. Another one of my dearest friends gave me this article several months ago and I suggested our group discuss it because I needed their input and wisdom.
The past several months I have been feeling anxious. I guess that's the best way to describe it. I finally figured out what my problem was one evening while I was lying in bed. I struggle with transition periods in my life and I drive myself and others around me crazy during these times. A few other times in my life I have felt this same way - when I was trying to decide where to go to college, if I should marry Chuck, where we should go after we both graduated from college, if we should move from Vegas to St. George and now. My transition - it's a hard one, my baby is almost 1 and the baby phase of my life is complete. Tears stream as I contemplate what that means - tears of sadness because there will not be another newborn to fill our home with joy, tears of thankfulness because I don't have to be pregnant again, tears of joy because I have been blessed beyond what I thought was possible. But what does this transition mean for me?
I discovered how to find the answer with this amazing talk. Sister Beck raises the question "What is your mission?". In order to discover it we have to make proper choices and that means there has to be prioritizing in our lives. She said when our priorities are out of order, we lose power and we need power to discover and carry out our mission.
This has been my goal for the past several months and for this New Year to make sure my priorities, where I choose to spend my time and efforts are in line with my mission for myself and my family. Sister Beck suggested making a list with 3 categories - essential things, necessary things, and nice-to-do things. There are so many things that beckon to us as women and mothers. I was surprised when I made my list that there weren't that many things that were essential compared to the other categories. If this is the case, why is it hard to make sure I accomplish those essential things. One of the women in my group helped answer that question. The nice-to-do things are usually fun, rewarding, they bombard us from every angle, the voices calling to us are loud. The essential things do not vie for our attention, we must work diligently and seek them out.
After our meeting I felt that anxious feeling subside. I know I must focus on the essential things and that means some of my fun nice-to-dos are going to drop off the list. Some things that I would like to focus on are going to have to wait for a different season of life and that's okay. As women, we are lucky to have seasons of life where our priorities and efforts can evolve and change. Many of my essential things are summed up in a scripture I have in vinyl on our kitchen wall D&C 109:8 Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing, and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God;
A pretty lofty goal, more like a lofty eternal journey, but one that's worth putting all my time and effort toward. I'm thankful for a group of wise and wonderful women and mothers that help me remember what is most important.
And here's the link to the article I referenced in case anyone is interested. It's a great one!
http://lds.org/library/display/0,4945,9118-1-5187-1,00.html